Divorce is a stressful experience for kids, especially since they may lack a large understanding of what is happening and the reasons you are seeking the separation. Children may blame themselves and wonder if they could have done anything to keep the family together. This can damage the parent-child relationship, especially if your divorce was particularly contentious.
Here are some things that may help you repair your relationships with your children after getting a divorce in Arkansas.
Avoid discussing your former spouse
It is important that children know the basics regarding what is going on during a divorce. However, continually talking and complaining about your ex-spouse can lead to resentment in a child. Kids do not wish to feel that they must take a side between one of their two parents. In addition to being damaging to kids, this kind of talk can potentially jeopardize your custody arrangement.
If you are a noncustodial parent, make an extra effort to call and talk to your children often. When you do see them, reiterate how much you value spending time with them. Make it clear that the decrease in time spent with them has no reflection on how much you care for them. However, remember that showering kids with lavish presents to make up for lost time spent together often backfires. Keep some semblance of your usual discipline and guidance intact.
Knowing how to repair a parent-child relationship after a divorce leads to better outcomes for both parties for many years to come.